“Kind to self, kind to others.” I said to myself as I opened the glass door into the yoga studio. I rolled out my mat, curious to see what the teacher had in store for us in class that night.

The tattooed instructor sat down and began reading from Pema Chodron’s The Places That Scare You: A Guide to Fearlessness in Difficult Times.

The passage about kindness was beautiful, touching, heart-warming and just right. The yoga teacher discussed the passage and talked about the importance of setting good boundaries in our lives. He looked up at us as he said, “One of the things that I keep having to remind myself is, you know, to be kind to others, but also how important it is to be kind to myself.”

Was it less than 10 minutes ago that I had been repeating that mantra in my very own head? Yes it was. I looked at him, stunned, and felt so grateful for that moment of synchronicity.

It’s true. We must be kind. Respectful. Loving. Generous. Caring. We must be that way as often as we can. Not just to those around us, though. We must be kind to ourselves too. Tapping into our heart space, listening to the voices that speak our heart’s truth, and taking care of ourselves and the things we hold most dear. When we can take care of ourselves and love ourselves, we are better equipped to be present with, give ourselves to, and love others.

When times get rough, I ask myself, “What would you advise one of your daughters to do if she was struggling with this situation?” I often get more clarity on how to handle tough situations, and I get way more soft with myself. Way more kind, way more tender and far less critical, far less afraid.

“Kind to self, kind to others…” I have been repeating to myself. And I am glad to know I am not alone in meditating on this mantra.

(For more on this topic, I loved this blog post on a similar theme, shared by Brave Girls Club recently)

  5 comments for “Kindness

  1. April 24, 2012 at 2:44 pm

    What a beautiful manta. “kind to self, kind to others..” I needed to hear this right now. Thank you.

    • April 24, 2012 at 3:45 pm

      Yay, I need to hear it every day. <3 to you!

  2. April 24, 2012 at 9:17 pm

    I so relate to asking oneself how you would advise someone you love. I, too, realize I’m much more patient and kind to myself if I give Me the consideration I would give others.

  3. April 27, 2012 at 6:12 am

    This is beautiful.

    • April 27, 2012 at 5:24 pm

      Thank you!!!

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